"Father's Day"

Now it's time for my brazilian friends to be surprised with the post title, because Father's Day in Brazil is only at the second Sunday of August! And as a matter of curiosity I'll be just saying that Mother's Day is on the same day in these two countries! Well, so lucky D and my dad as they got one more day in the year to be specially remembered and congratulated!

In the case you have asked yourself whether or not I ask D's permission to write about him, I'll answer that, yes, I have always done that! And every time that I know something I'll write could be kinda embarrassing to him, I also asked his permission specifically in every of these cases! But this time, I haven't done that because I want to surprise him! But knowing he is a sweet husband he would have let me write this anyway!

I want to talk a little about his qualities as a husband and as a father, and besides paying tribute to him I also hope to encourage my girlfriends to seek good guys too and for them not to be content with little! I believe that guys are only waiting for an exigent woman so they can bring out the good man they have inside! But in order to do so, I want to be very honest here and say to you that I don't intend to promote the hunting for the charming prince! Yes, girls, he doesn't exist! Some get close but all of us have defects and we all make mistakes, sometimes unintentionally and sometimes intentionally.

Ok, so having said that, I will pass to the due compliments! My mom always told me that in order for you to marry someone you need to admire this person. And then, have plans together! Well, while D is extremely good in foreign languages, is good at all instruments (specially the guitar) and being very good at all sports (I used to loooove watching his indoor soccer games!!), it's not these materials things that counts! They made me fall in love with him but they are useless (almost! lol) to make me love him for all my life! And it's about these no materials things that I want to write about! I will try to elaborate a list sorted by importance level, but I know somethings have equal value, so don't consider the order too much!
 

- He was always open to have children! I think not all of you really know the true dimension of a guy wanting to have children, but it's gigantic, believe me! I'll tell you a little story about something that happened a long before we have any conversation about kids. On our first week together, for an amazing coincidence, my friend Claudinha, overheard D talking to his friend Thais, at some juices' booth at our university! I might say that Claudinha didn't know how D looked like but she knew I was dating a japanese and by the conversation she overheard she could tell that my new boyfriend was D! In sum, D was telling Thais that his girlfriend (me, Gabby) has a lot of siblings (ten!!) and then he added like if it was the most obvious conclusion: "I'll have to work very hard to have a lot of children myself." hahaha soooo cute!! He noticed that maybe I would want to have a lot of kids too and instead of running away, he accepted that since the beginning and had a positive reaction!



- He never complained and always accepted that we use the NFP methods to avoid children when we have to! Really, what a good and generous man! He neeeeever complained, had long faces, said anything pejorative and always respected me! (For those not familiar with NFP, it's very simple! It just means the couple should avoid having intercourse when the woman is fertile! I use the billings and the temperature methods and I'm also learning the saliva method! And I also know that there is an instrument from Europe that measures certain hormone level! I'm planning on acquiring it, but not for now!)


- He's incredibly good, attentive and respectful with my family!! He was all of these while we were dating but now he is MUCH more that I could have ever desired! What a relief to bring home a guy like D! My siblings love him! Among the many love displays (lol) I'll just tell you about my bro Marcos that always jokes (or not) saying that first comes D and then me! He always plays with my bro Pedro, goes cycling with him, takes him to fish, helps him find little jobs, picks him up at school, goes with him to excursions, etc, etc! He helps my little sisters with their homework, plays games with them, and much more!!!


- He is a very hard worker!! And this was always something I would demand my future husband to be! He is very concentrated and interested in what he does!! You know that person that can read a paper or end a presentation in those free 15 min here and there? Well, I was never like this, but he is very good at it!!

- He is interested in good information and gets all excited with good resolutions!! Currently he is reading the book "Father, The Family Protector" but he likes to know every kind of good information regarding our children's education and wants to apply it asap. Still regarding it, I must say that on the night I first wrote this post, D wasn't home yet ( @10pm) because he drove 50 min to a certain city so he could attend an Opus Dei's recollection! In these recollections you listen to all kinds of good stuff and practical advices on how to become a better person at the place you are in the world! D, for example, always comes back from these recollections like the best man in the world! Super caring, sweet and super happy!!

- He apologizes very easily! I think women are aware that sometimes the words "sorry" and "thank you" can be kinda rare on a man's vocabulary. Well, I know I'm lucky but D is the opposite of it!! And this makes all of our discussions go away very easily and also be short in number! Besides this, he always tries to improve and change things for better!

- He comes back to work to have lunch with his family everyday!! I know it's only a 5-8 min driving but still many people from his work don't do that! This only shows me his generosity toward his family! 


And the list could go on, but these things are more than enough to make me admire him for all my life!


D, thank you so much for everything! I love so much! Thank you for being my father's children! I'll love you for all my life! I hope to always improve everyday so I can be a better wife and a better mother of your children so you too can always love me for the rest of your life!


Now I want address some words to my father too! I don't even know if he reads my blog but nevertheless and I want to pay tribute to him as well!

Dear daddy! You are and will always be my example of a hard worker, a good father and a good husband! Example of a man who prays! Of a man who strive to improve yourself! Of a GENEROUS man - my father is on the top of the universal list of generous people! And just thinking seriously about all of these things makes me want to cry in admiration for you! I love you so much!



And I finish this post with a toast for all the good man out there! The ones that always seek to be a better man everyday!