"Valentine's Day"? What the heck? If it was at least "Father's Day", ok, but....
Yes! Because tomorrow is "Valentine's Day" in Brazil. And "Father's Day" in Brazil is only on the second Sunday of August. But the brazilian "Valentine's Day" is a little bit different because is more like "boyfriend/girlfriend's day" only! So it's kinda silly!
But special dates ask for a post, even when it's the most commercial date ever created! Like if it was necessary to invent a day to celebrate it! In my understanding, everyone who is dating is always happy and always celebrating since they are always going out and coming up with little surprises to each other! If a relationship it's not like that, so I think it's time to rethink why these two people are together and maybe it's time for them to break up!
Speaking of breaking up and endings, it's exactly because of this that I think it shouldn't exist a day dedicated to the lovebirds! Because they are not suppose to be eternal! Or they get married or they turn into nothing (because I don't believe in friendship after a relationship but this is a subject to another post!). Look, I am not a bitter person regarding all of this! On the contrary!! I used to love the time when D and I was dating and I like romantic things (those that don't cross the tacky border).
I'm not against commercial dates, either, because "Mother's Day" and "Father's Day" are also commercial days but at least they are meant to pay tribute to those who are the most essential people in the life of every person!! And these dates means a lot for those in focus: mothers and daddies! Plus, try to go blank in these days to see what happens!! And I'm not only talking about the usual emotional mothers, but fathers too!! In my home, we used to think my dad didn't care whether he would get a present on Christmas, for example, even though he always got a little thing or two, but one time I clearly remember his radiant face when he received a good surprise! From that day on, I started to considerate more dad's feelings too!
Yes! Because tomorrow is "Valentine's Day" in Brazil. And "Father's Day" in Brazil is only on the second Sunday of August. But the brazilian "Valentine's Day" is a little bit different because is more like "boyfriend/girlfriend's day" only! So it's kinda silly!
But special dates ask for a post, even when it's the most commercial date ever created! Like if it was necessary to invent a day to celebrate it! In my understanding, everyone who is dating is always happy and always celebrating since they are always going out and coming up with little surprises to each other! If a relationship it's not like that, so I think it's time to rethink why these two people are together and maybe it's time for them to break up!
Speaking of breaking up and endings, it's exactly because of this that I think it shouldn't exist a day dedicated to the lovebirds! Because they are not suppose to be eternal! Or they get married or they turn into nothing (because I don't believe in friendship after a relationship but this is a subject to another post!). Look, I am not a bitter person regarding all of this! On the contrary!! I used to love the time when D and I was dating and I like romantic things (those that don't cross the tacky border).
I'm not against commercial dates, either, because "Mother's Day" and "Father's Day" are also commercial days but at least they are meant to pay tribute to those who are the most essential people in the life of every person!! And these dates means a lot for those in focus: mothers and daddies! Plus, try to go blank in these days to see what happens!! And I'm not only talking about the usual emotional mothers, but fathers too!! In my home, we used to think my dad didn't care whether he would get a present on Christmas, for example, even though he always got a little thing or two, but one time I clearly remember his radiant face when he received a good surprise! From that day on, I started to considerate more dad's feelings too!
But back to my point! In the case, if we are always trying to honor someone so it should first exist the "Married people's Day"! Because they are potential mothers and fathers and strive everyday to keep they love alive against all kinds of difficulties in the name of their ideal of "forever together"! These things simply don't apply to those still dating! And besides, in the context of the married couple, to create a day dedicated to them would help them to revive the love between them, another thing that shouldn't be needed while two people are only dating.
It's obvious that married couples also take advantage of the existence of the Valentine's Day to celebrate themselves too! But the nomenclature question that end up adding all who are dating, don't please me! But like I said, I'm not a bitter person regarding it! I also like to receive chocolates or some flower even though we had agreed not to give any gifts at all! And if money is not a problem, I also think it is valid to go out to a fancy place!
It's obvious that married couples also take advantage of the existence of the Valentine's Day to celebrate themselves too! But the nomenclature question that end up adding all who are dating, don't please me! But like I said, I'm not a bitter person regarding it! I also like to receive chocolates or some flower even though we had agreed not to give any gifts at all! And if money is not a problem, I also think it is valid to go out to a fancy place!
Anyway, I just don't like this exaggerated buzz around this date! Like it was some kind of misfortune not to have a boyfriend exactly on the 12th of June. I was always a supporter of that proverb "better alone than in bad company". And my dad seems to like this too since he used to give his daughters some chocolate and a gift on valentine's day for some years already!! That was always very nice!! =D
But back to what I was saying! "Better alone than in bad company". And it is regarding this that I want to write about! I want to dedicate this post to all the single ones (mostly to the single ladies, probably!). For those who are single because of the LACK of option! Because there is no reason to get all sad just because you don't have a boyfriend. I know it seems very easy for me to talk about it since I've already found the love of my life, and it is easy I must admit! Buuut, it's exactly because of my married condition that I want to say some words! Because being already paired with someone I want to mention all the things I would do if I was single or that I wish I had done while I was single!
Lists, here we go!
- Travel!!! Obviously this would be the first thing on my list! But, really! Go travel!! Because travelling alone while dating is very annoying and it turns to be impossible when you are married! Lately - say for the last 2 years - I've been having this fix idea that I wish I had learned how to surf before I started dating, got married! So, if this is your dream too, go out there, travel to somewhere and learn it!!
- Go to the gym or practice a sport! Yes! Take the opportunity to get serious about working out your body! Or practice a sport that you like or even start to learn that sport you always wanted to! Racket ball, for example! Get into really good shape because nothing is better than to feel good about yourself while you are single! I'll never forget that phrase from the movie "Miss Congeniality": "people like those who like themselves" or something like that! But it's very true!!
- Make up, hair and nails done! Again the thing here is to feel good about yourself! Be always pretty! Show the world and specially yourself that you are single not because you are not attractive! It's because you're way too beautiful! lol
- Work, study and pray! Yes! To be single it's a great phase to catch up with everything that is kinda "so so" in your life! Take this opportunity to work hard, study hard and also boost your spiritual life! Notice that doing so you are going to relieve your stress and your dissatisfaction with yourself! Nothing is better than to be in peace! Spiritual peace and material peace! Who likes that feeling right in the beginning of the semester that your are gonna fail at some subject? Or feel that you are about to miss your job or feel that you are never gonna get a better position on your job?
- Books! Read looots of books! If you don't have the habit, try to acquire it and you won't regret it!
- Study another language! Even if it is the case to be autodidact! There are plenty of books for this matter and lots of materials online!
- Play an instrument! If there is no money for classes, try to be autodidact too!
Be audacious and take this time to better focus in all these things and acquire good habits that can be extended later when you are finally dating! Be happy!! Listen to music that makes you happy! Be smiling with the world! Be more polite with people and be a better person! Do social work! Go to the movies, eat popcorn, go out with your friends to the park, to the mall, and why not, to the restaurants too!! And also flirt!! lol To flirt is very cool and it's only allowed during this phase of life!
Anyways, these are all things that I would try to do if I was still single with the mind I have now! Summarizing, I just wanted to say that there is plenty of cool things to do while you are single and that maybe you will look back when you are no longer single and you are gonna wish you had enjoyed more this phase! Please notice that I LOVE to be married! It's not the opposite that I am trying to express here!! To get married is very cool, but this is also a subject for another post!
And that's it!
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